Although there are differences, contemporary British gay slang has adopted many Polari words. If you are craving for a bigger penis for yourself, or for your lovers, remember that ‘bigger is better’ is not always true.During the first seven decades of the 20th century, a specific form of Polari was developed by gay men and lesbians in urban centres of the United Kingdom within established LGBT communities. To me, the idea that size is important in gay sex is just a myth. And I can promise you – if you are worried about your own size – that in bed, it’s not your partner’s length or girth but their performance that matters. Mental satisfaction is what it’s all about. Sex is not limited to physical intercourse. The love and the quality of the time you give each other means more than size. And from that, I’ve taken the very clear lesson that having sex is not just about the sex – it’s an important moment, which is only good when you feel safe with someone and your partner treats you well.įor me the kisses and embraces are the most important part.
The law of averages means, of course, that most of the sex I’ve had has been with guys with an average penis. I simply can’t say that I have had better experience with larger guys. I’ve met plenty of guys in my time, of all different sizes, but honestly as a bottom I can’t agree that bigger is always better. Frankly I can say we had some of the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. Not shocked that it was anything unusual but only because of the mental picture he put in my mind.ĭespite this, I have to say I really enjoyed myself with him and the smaller-than-advertised size of his penis made no difference at all. So when we met in person I was a little shocked to see his little master. We chatted a lot on phone, including talking about sex and he boasted about his size a lot. My first relationship was with someone I met online was with a guy I met on Facebook. Can this size worship be one reason gay romances are so fragile? After this it seems everyone wants to put their hands in a new man’s underwear, wondering what new and big thing they will find there. I have often seen gay relationships fail after three or four sex meetings. The fact we keep trying, however, is the clearest signal of all that most of us believe bigger is better. Of course, it is very well established none of them work. No wonder newspaper and web advertising continuously pushes various methods to increase size. This can even lead to anti-social behavior, depression and suicide. In the worst cases men – gay, bi and straight – can suffer from body dysmorphic disorder. A study by Utrecht University in the Netherlands around a decade ago showed penis length had a big impact on gay men’s self esteem. There’s evidence gay men take all this particularly seriously. The angle at which you look down on your penis leads you to think it’s smaller than it really is and if you have any fat on your belly, that only makes it worse. 6ins or even 7ins are commonly quoted figures.ĭespite everyone wanting to be big, we tend to underestimate our own size too. Most people assume average size is much bigger. While scientists say the sample wasn’t quite big enough to reach a firm conclusion on this, they found no link between size and race. The study also busted the myth that size varies with race. The typical penis is just 13.12cms (5.16ins) long and 11.66cms (4.6ins) around when erect. It makes you wonder if one day, lab-grown or donated penises will be grafted on to men who have extreme concerns over size.Īnd at the start of March we learned about a study of 15,000 penises, finally answering the question of average size.
He had lost his penis in a botched circumcision at age 18 but now has a fully functioning member, capable of urination, erection, orgasm and ejaculation. Over the weekend we heard a penis transplant on a 21-year-old in South Africa had apparently been a success. The subject has been firmly on the agenda with a couple of big stories over the last few weeks. We all know that penis size is one of men’s greatest obsessions but most don’t know the surprising truth behind the size myths.ĭid you know, for example, that humans are better endowed than all our primate cousins? You may expect a gorilla to be better hung than you but you would be wrong, both in terms of absolute and relative size.